Maybe I should have realized this sooner.

YOU CAN ONLY HAVE THE ADVENTURES YOU SAY YES TO.

Seems simple, sure, but here’s the thing – I’m a bit of recluse. Left to my own devices, I’ll nail boards on the windows and burrow under the blankets of my bed with an assortment of critters and I’ll even start to forget that beyond the steps of my front porch there’s this whole magical land of adventures waiting for me. I can rationalize my way out of any potential adventure, reasoning that I’m too busy, or that I’ve been gone too much lately, or that I have to wake up too early the next day, or that I should really just give myself a break and laze about for a day or a weekend or a Friday night, or whatever because you know what? Avoiding adventures is easy. Staying home, hunkered down, is easy. Hiding, is easy, but experiencing takes work.

So when Andrew left I wondered how I’d do. I wondered if I’d make myself a den and hibernate for the next 12 to 18 months or if the realization would hit me that he’s not here to take my hand and guide me out into the world and through adventures and that the only way to avoid being an actual hermit was to say yes to things and to stop making excuses to go on adventures because life is too damn short to spend it grumpy and alone and hiding among the bedsheets.

Something clicked when I went to Colorado. I realized how simple it is to say yes to things, how easy it is to agree to an adventure, that if you don’t put yourself out there, that if you don’t even try, you won’t get picked and the adventure won’t happen and you’ll have missed a chance to experience amazing things.

NEW RULE:

  SAY YES TO MORE ADVENTURES.

Because life is too short. Because being away from Andrew is awful and hard and sad and frustrating, but that doesn’t give me license to feel awful and sad and frustrated all the time, or to use those feelings of sadness and awfulness and frustration to hide in the house with the cats and dogs. Because life is full of adventures and I like adventures, even if it means putting on pants, brushing my teeth and leaving the house.


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10 thoughts on “Maybe I should have realized this sooner.


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    I said no to the opportunity to go to NYC for Women in the World and then kicked myself SO hard when I saw how awesome it was. So I said yes to Colorado and really enjoyed myself. And I now have a 10-class pass to a local yoga studio. Saying yes more is one of my vows, too.


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    Exactly! 🙂 yes leads to more opportunities to say yes, while no really shts all the doors!


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    i’m trying to live by that rule, too. well… as long as mr. credit card says i can 😉 life is way more fun when you’re in on the action!


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    Ash

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    I LOVE this new rule, just as I loved seeing all the smiles on your face in your pictures from Colorado!

    And besides, Andrew is out there living his dream & having adventures & challenges every day. If you didn’t adopt this new rule, when he gets back, he will tell you all about his, and then ask you what you did. You *really* don’t want to answer with, “well, I was a sad, grumpy, hermit, for a year.”

    Far better to have your own tales of adventures to tell!


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    LOVE this. I’m often an expert at saying yes (even when it’s probably not the best idea) which has led me to many adventures and opportunities and on many occasions a ridiculous story to tell (see: walking across SF at 4 a.m. in argyle golf attire). So, if you ever have trouble convincing yourself to say yes, let me know!


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    I really, really love this. I felt this way just this week, actually – and when I ventured out of the house to attend a “networking” event, I found myself pleasantly surprised by how much fun I had and by how many amazing people I met. Not unlike BiSC, in fact 🙂


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    Perry T.

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    I just realized how much I miss your writing…and I totally agree! Now that I am on my third (or fourth, or perhaps even fifth) career and about to celebrate my third “30th birthday,” I can honestly say that the reason I have not had “35 years of experience” doing any one thing in particular is because trying something new and taking on new (ad)ventures is what keeps us alive. F* getting that gold watch! Give me a job where I can appreciate how many times I am exposed to something new and different each day.


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    San

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    I nominated you for a blog award 🙂


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    this is the best rule ever. the end.


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